Dating isn't easy. And rightfully so, it shouldn't be. If you're looking for a life partner, the search is bound to be fraught with losers, drop outs, and shining examples of what exactly it means to fail at life. After awhile, most women get good at weeding out men within a few dates, but sometimes you need a little help. Here's a list of five men you should never date - and why.
Mr. Potential
Bat for Lashes said it best: "don't fall in love with potential, you can see with your own eyes." Never a truer statement has been uttered. Mr. Potential is all about what he wants to do, what he's going to do, what his life should be about. But somehow, he just doesn't seem to get there. He's stuck in a rut, and doesn't know how to use his potential. Trust me, you're not going to be the woman who changes his ways. He's not going to recognize his potential until he gets off his lazy ass and wants to.
The Boss
Never, ever date your boss. It's a big no brainer, but one worth repeating. Not only is it bad manners, but it can end pretty ugly. While you might be able to get away with dating a co-worker, your boss is an entirely different story. Sure, we've all fantasized about some hot in-office sex, but that's no reason to sully up the work place. What happens when it's time for a performance review, or the company has to make lay offs? We all like to think that we'll be mature enough to handle those situations, but we can't say for sure.
The Divorced Stud
While one divorce is pretty common and fairly acceptable, avoid men who've been divorced multiple times. There are myriad potential problems with men who have been divorced upwards of 3 or more times. Not only does it show that they can't make a long term relationship work, but it shows that they have terrible judgment. The more times a person has been divorced, the greater the likelihood of them having a personality disorder. You don't want to date a true narcissist. Sure, there are extenuating circumstances for multiple divorces. But 5? You're kidding, right?
The Big Little Kid
Everyone needs to keep in touch with their "inner child." We all need to let loose and have fun now and again. But there's a line between having fun, and being completely irresponsible. This is the guy who wakes up when he's 55 and realizes he has no money saved up for retirement. You don't want to work until the day you die, and it's never easy carrying all of the responsibility in a relationship. The Big Little Kid may be fun for a weekend or a quick vacation, but his expiration date isn't far off.
Your Polar Opposite (or Personality Twin)
The saying "opposites attract" is very true. But you have to keep in mind that while opposites may attract initially, what's shiny and new will fade over time. And then what's left? Sex. Much like your platonic friendships, you need to have a few things in common with your partner in order to make things interesting and worthwhile. The same goes for dating someone whose every interest is identical to yours. You should have enough in common to keep the conversation going, but be independent enough to where you can remain your own person.
There are tons of guys out there that you shouldn't form lasting relationships with. Maybe it's the bad boy, or the philanderer, or the workaholic. If you're the kind of woman who likes to lead all of the time, dating a big kid might not be a problem for you. We aren't all the same person, but we do all need to be cared for and respected.
What men do you avoid in the dating scene? Have you made a successful and lasting relationship with the man who only has potential, or your boss, or the big kid?